3 Reasons Why You Fail to Achieve Your Goals

Every single choice you make determines your Destiny

You’re probably reading this because you’re finding it hard to have self-discipline or to stay focused enough and execute your action plans until you achieve your end.

Perhaps you’ve even given up on a goal several times, and you’ve come back to it again, only to give up yet again. It has now become a pattern, and you want something to help you put an end to this vicious cycle of yo-yo mindset.

When you give up on something, it’s because at least one of the following had occurred:

#1: The goal you’ve set for yourself don’t really excite you in the first place.

When your goals don’t really mean much to you, it’s almost guaranteed that you will eventually decide that the potential pay-off or reward of what you’re doing is not worth your time, energy or effort. Naturally, you’ll quit.

The solution? Set goals that make you jump out of bed in the morning!

Set goals that make you grin ear- to-ear or get tingly all over just thinking about it!

“Make more money” sounds vague.

Now compare it to: “I’m working towards transforming my lifestyle completely so that I do only the work I absolutely love, I live in total luxury, I get to travel around the world, I have plenty of time to spend with my loved ones, and I earn enough to have millions left to give generously to those in need!”

Ask what it really means to you to achieve your goal, and then translate this into strong emotions that excite you, motivate you, and energize you to take action now!

#2: You’re in denial about the consequences of every choice you make.

When you fail to follow through, when you resort to “loser mode”, it’s because you have found a way to justify or rationalize your chosen behavior.

You can really only say things like these to yourself if you’re in denial:

• “I really should have the most expensive car compared to all my friends so I’ll take out another loan to top Martin’s new Porsche,” or
• “Getting in debt just so I could buy another pair of shoes worth $2500 isn’t really that bad – I deserve only the best!”
• “Eating a box of doughnuts along with a tub of ice cream and some cakes won’t really hurt. I’d been good all week so I deserve a reward!”

The truth is that one box of donuts will eventually become two, three, four…

Getting in debt just so you could buy expensive items to impress your friends could eventually catch up with you and get you evicted out of your home.

Get this in your head now: every single thing you do, every choice you make- no matter how “little” or “big” – has consequences. To believe otherwise is naivety.

#3: You haven’t grasped the pain-pleasure principle

When you say you want something and yet you’re still not doing something about it, it’s probably because you haven’t attached enough emotional pains to your current situation.

So in your mind it’s still perfectly acceptable to be the way you are now. You’re still OK to stay fat or broke or unfit or unhealthy, etc.

In the same manner, it may be that you haven’t attached enough emotional pleasures to achieving the outcome of the goal you want like being financially free, feeling energized, being athletic, being active, feeling super sexy, having so much free time to spend with your kids, etc.

You may have attached psychological pains to things like: learning how to invest, to establishing your own business, to learning how to prepare healthy meals from scratch, to working out, or to exercising – rather than anchoring pleasureable and positive emotions to the things that are essential to your progress.

For example, when you are contemplating whether or not to start working dilligently on getting rid of all your bad debts:

You can choose to imagine how difficult and exhausting it could be having to work on the evenings and weekends on top of your full time job; you can visualize the parties, night outs and holidays you’ll have to miss, the luxuries you’ll have to give up, etc.

Or

You can visualize just how liberating it will be to be absolutely debt-free and having enough money left at the end of every month to put aside and invest.

The choice is yours.

Conclusion

Failing to achieve your goals is not entirely your fault. Most of the time it’s simply a case of not knowing what tools to use in order to effectively get what we truly want.

Here are some short and quick tips to help you stay focused and on track:

1. Set worthy goals! Set BIG HAIRY goals that excite you, energize you, and inspire you to be bigger, brighter and better than ever!
2. When faced with a temptation, be sure to link massive pleasure to the action that will move you closer to your goal, and link immense unbearable pain to the choice that will merely let you stay in your comfort zone.
3. Set up a reward to look forward to if you followed through. It must be something that truly inspires you.
4. Set up a punishment dreadful enough for you to not even consider failing. Have a punishment so bad, so horrible, so disgusting that it will simply leave no room for doubt or hesitation!
5. Become accountable. Assign someone else to execute the reward or the punishment, whichever is applicable. Make sure they are not the type who’ll let you off the hook!

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